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 There you go.

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I'm in a bad mood today (it must be that time of the month) so I thought I'd write about something that makes me feel..nice:

 
Nikon D40 (and of course, I had to be in the shot)

I first saw it a couple of weeks ago. I initially thought I couldn't find an SLR worth under 30k but alas, a wrong turn in greenhills led me to a shop that sold it at a price I could afford without waiting for the bonus in May.
I waited for a week, not because I needed a week to think about buying it, but because I had about a week until payday. Good thing payday came early this week..

I will be posting real pictures soon...just as soon as I am able to go on a protography session somewhere nice and somewhere that I won't fear for my (or my camera's) safety. I'm thinking somewhere with lots of sunshine and with sand and water...(beach anyone?)

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1. i recently requested a signed bookplate from the freakonomics website and i just got it yesterday.

i can't exactly say whose signatures those are..i'm assuming they're the authors'..



1. i watched the Stardust premiere yesterday.
   
   
   

 it was a love story, but i thought it was nice enough. i didn't get to see all of it though..so i'll have to watch it again eventually.

 

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i'm going back to reading fiction and dreaming of a happy ending for my life. i used to think that dreaming is overrated and that reality was so much better. now i realize that dreams and fairy tales are so much better.

painful realizations...i'm having a lot of those lately. and the problem here is that i'm bingeing both on smoking and eating, one of which is not good for me (i'm sure it's the latter). that's all i can do. no decisive actions. i'm a dandelion spore. i go wherever the wind takes me..and the wind is blowing me away..or so i think.

intrepid

WE WON.

MWAHAHAHAHA

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(from http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m1355/is_n7_v93/ai_20136005)

In today's world of constant change and transition, many relationships are bound to be forced to endure some sort of separation. Whether it is caused by a job change, military commitment, educational quest or a family obligation, separation can have resounding effects on romantic relationships.

In the midst of separation, some may turn to the adage: Absence makes the heart grow fonder. But does the maxim really hold true?

"Absence is more likely to make the heart grow fonder if the relationship has depth, strength and breadth," suggests Vesta Callender, a psychotherapist with practices in Greenwich, CT, and New York City. She says this type of relationship is one that has both its spiritual and economic needs met, and the relationship has enjoyed not only good times, but trials that have been overcome.

Callender also says that people's personalities are key in determining whether absence can aid the relationship.

"Some personality types tend to be constant and to cultivate lasting relationships," she describes. This type of person would "yearn for the absent party, reminisce about the past, have glowing memories of times spent together and look forward to the future." Those things contribute to making the heart grow fonder.

However, Callender says the amount of time spent apart is just as important as the other elements of the relationship.

"Separation is experienced in stages," she explains. "The attitude changes over time." She says in the beginning absence very well may make the heart grow fonder, but later on the attitude may be "out of sight, out of mind."

The commitment level in the relationship is usually a major factor to determine whether or not absence can improve the relationship, points out Derek McNeil, who teaches psychology at Wheaton College in Wheaton, IL.

"I think relationships where people have made at least some choice to spend an extended amount of time together, as in marriage, or have some commitment between each other to be exclusive, could lend itself to making the heart grow fonder (if apart)," McNeil says. He contends that the partners would "certainly have to nurture the relationship, communicate well, share parts of their lives with each other and maintain some level of connectiveness.

"If they can't do that, they'll have more problems. (Distance) is not a total cutoff, but an attempt to nurture a relationship without having a spatial condition."

Space is good for relationships when people use it to work on themselves, according to Dr. Jerry Davis, a clinical psychologist in Atlanta.

"Absence can be positive sometimes when there's a need to work on yourself," he explains. "We come to any relationship carrying our own issues. Sometimes when we have some space, that can be positive if it is used to work on oneself and not used to establish another relationship."

Davis also points to the commitment level to determine whether relationships can withstand separation. He paraphrases a quote by Francois Rochefoucauld to make his point: As the wind will blow out a candle, but fan a fire, absence will diminish mediocre passion, but increase great ones.

"Yes, to some degree, absence can make it grow fonder, but it is not a good formula for sustaining the relationship," he asserts.

He says people "have a built-in need for intimacy with ourselves, others and God. When we find ourselves out of that presence, there is need."

Dr. Julia Hare, a relationship expert who wrote How To Find A BMW (Black Man Working), points out that there are two parts to the adage that absence makes the heart grow fonder. She says, "Sometimes it makes the heart go yonder."

She contends that she doesn't advise couples to live in separate cities or stay away from each other for an extended period of time if they can help it.

Hare says distant relationships have "a lack of physical contact, spiritual, mental bonding that comes from being with them every day, living in the same city."

She also points out that "in most relationships there usually is just one partner who is less secure than the other."

When that less-secure person calls the other one and he or she is not in, "that mind starts to clicking....and things start to go downhill from there."

what a load of crap.

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STONE TEMPLE PILOTS LYRICS

"Interstate Love Song"

waiting on a Sunday afternoon
for what I read between the lines,
your lies.
feelin' like a hand in rusted shame
so do you laugh or does it cry?
reply?

leavin' on a southern train
only yesterday you lied,
promises of what I seemed to be
only watched the time go by,
all of these things you said to me.

breathing is the hardest thing
to do. with all I've said and
all that's dead for you,
you lied - good bye

leavin' on a southern train
only yesterday you lied
promises of what I seemed to be
only watched the time go by,
all of these things I said to you